This one the most [lately]:
"40. If you want to be well-liked and approachable, make sure not to be confrontational have any opinions or let them be known."Can we stop attacking people [see: females perhaps, but really everyone] for expressing what they need and being vocal about it? This is not the same as "picking a fight" "being a bitch" "enjoying confrontation" "being mean"... any of that crap.
This is a generalization by necessity, and I understand not everyone and not every situation reflects it:
But, the tendency when individuals recognized as male speak up and outline what they need and expect and where they draw the line is to view them as someone who is "upfront" and "direct" and generally somewhere along the lines of "open/honest". Stuff like "a straight shooter". Either neutral or positive.
Individuals recognized as female speak up and outline what they need and expect and where they draw the line [and often have to do it with a lot more smiles] and the tendency is to view them as "bossy" or "manipulative", "controlling" or "bitchy". "Selfish". They are viewed as people who want to pick a fight, who enjoy inciting conflict, "trouble makers" etc etc etc. They are viewed with skepticism in the very least but more often worse.
I'm not going to own that shit.
That is everyone else's shit.